Has something bad ever happened to you, and your reaction was “Why Me?” 

I call it the “Why Me’s.” 

(Clever name, I know.. I’m a clever clever girl.)

Well, I had a really bad case of the “Why Me’s.”

Like really bad. 

And the thing with the “Why Me’s” is that it doesn’t really do anything.

You don’t feel that much better, and it actually just opens a door more even more bad things!

I’m not saying the “Why Me’s” were the cause of all my problems,

but they certainly didn’t help.

Do you remember last month?

I sure do. 

First a flea outbreak, then my car broke down, then the house flooded, and I lost a ton of original paintings, and my favorite tea set broke, and now my hard drive doesn’t work with all of my pictures of my sweet Mowgli, and one thing after another just kept happening. 

And all the little things that started to fall apart hurt even more.

And I would say, 

“Well, of course,

if anything bad out there is going to happen..

it will happen to me.”

Which was just a huge invitation for even more bad news to come my way.

The “Why Me’s” are a terrible habit. 

It’s hard to get out of feeling sorry for yourself.

But I’ve found the cure! 

I’ve done it! 

And I want to tell you my secret.

Next time you ask yourself “Why me?!” 

with tears running down your face, and hope gone from your heart..

Add a little something to that question.

“Why me?!   Because…..”

And then expound on that because.

Why is that bad thing happening to you?

(And don’t just answer “because I suck”)

Here is a petty example,

remember, I was in the midst of the “Why Me’s.” 

Where everything seemed to be going wrong.

All the little things too.

So for Christmas my mom gave me and my sister’s a beautiful leaf necklace.

Well, I tried putting it on a few days later, and it broke! 

I was angry at the world, that I couldn’t even have one little thing.

(That’s what the “Why Me’s” do to you!)

 I was a sad, that out of all three necklaces, mine would break.

Of course.

So I asked myself, “Why me?!” and all of the sudden I had my answer.

“Because I’m the one with the jewelry making tools to fix it.” 

And besides that, I wouldn’t want that to happen to my sisters!

Then one after another I had answers to all of my other “Why Me’s”

“Why did my hard drive break? With all of my pictures of Mowgli?

Because I can figure out how to fix it.”

“Why did my car break down?

Because I can figure out another way of getting around.”

And sometimes the answers were a little forced.

“Why did my house flood? Ruining 36 original paintings?

Because… I’m strong enough to handle even that.”

But each answer was empowering enough to cheer me up, 

and get me out of the “Why Me’s”

And once you answer the “Why Me?” you feel glad it didn’t happen to anyone else.

 Because it was meant for you, because you now know why.

You are strong enough to handle it, 

or you have the tools or resources to fix it.

I of course can’t guarantee results.

I can’t guarantee that all bad things will go away.

But I can tell you that the more you focus on your problems,

the more you pout and ask “Why me?” 

You will seem to find more problems.